The following has been brewing for some time and I wanted to really raise this personally, face-to-face to this friend, but with my own personal issues going on, meant it just dragged on even more and when I last seen her, I had to get it out of my system how I was not happy with her because she played a part spreading about my cousin losing limbs and the damage it did to me. Something that she never gave a response back, nor even an apology.
So this letter I posted today. Names here have been withheld.
Dear (name withheld)
I am writing to let you know I won’t be coming up on bank holiday Monday, in August.
Ever since that day you came to my home with (name withheld) at 11.30am, you have been drunk to some degree since, except for one occasion. And I only see you once a month.
I may have been quiet on this till now, but it doesn’t mean I have not been observing.
The last occasion I came up to yours in the afternoon, (28th July), you said (name withheld) had a go at you 7am that morning, asking if you had a drink.
Well I might not have been there at 7am, but you were slurring and looked drunk, as you were telling me this.
To hide your drink in the past, as you have done and having a quick drink is not a good sign. Even though I have not seen you drink from those two hiding places, doesn’t mean you have it somewhere else.
As I have already said, I see you once a month and there has been one occasion where you have not been drunk.
I had enough through childhood to witness the ongoings and the effects alcohol causes and though you are not like my dad, it doesn’t mean I want to be looking at my best friend drunk already, when I come to visit.
It’s not all (name withheld), I see that you have a problem when it comes to drink and more so in the last 2 years.
I know if I had saved this for bank holiday and speak about it then, you would have been in denial, like I witnessed the last time I was there.
When you can admit that you do have an issue with alcohol and start doing something about it, that’s when I will come back and see you again.
If you value what you have around you and value yourself, then you will seek the help and, support you need and choose not to drink again.
When you are ready to take that step, then write to me, or get (name withheld) to text me and I will come up and see you again.
Much love and take care.